13 November 2017


"Aloneness is a time to reflect, integrate, and contemplate. All of us need our cave, our inner sanctum where we can replenish, rejuvenate, and gain a fresh energy and perspective on what life has been delivering to us. The masculine part of us thrives on solitude, where all parts can regather, commune, and emerge anew. Being alone is being all-one. You silently sound a call for yourself to hear the voice of the soul and relax all parts of yourself into wholeness.
This is a redemptive act: to recollect and reunite all parts of yourself around the pillar of the One. In this gathering, we recollect ourselves and return to our source, our original wholeness. Aloneness gives you an opportunity to hear your true nature, the still, small voice within, that always knows. This voice, always present, follows the guidance of your pure soul in all situations.
This still, small voice within serves to bring you into divine will, which serves love. Surrendering to divine will allows our highest potential to manifest. It wants only the best for us. Often we do not know what is best for us, what will lead us to true joy and happiness and the strength of unspeakable peace. When we flow with divine will, it releases us from the compulsive need to do, and we surrender to what is happening in our present experience of life right now. We see that our identity, our sense of value, our love, our strength, and our peace do not depend on doing.
Divine will is most deeply felt and understood when you are alone. You can hear it better! Aloneness is a soothing balm that welcomes deeper, softer emotions within you, gently, gradually, easing and cradling your heart in this tender flow. As Hafiz shares in his poem "Absolutely Clear," "Don’t surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few human or even divine ingredients can." Loneliness, sadness, tenderness and deep healing happen in the heart sitting in solitude. Our deepest pain, our need for love that has not been met and fulfilled, arises. We feel it, we surrender to its sacred tears, and we become a little bit more whole.
Many of us are scared of true connection and true relationship because we have not truly connected with certain parts of ourselves. In connecting with our newly discovered aspects we can also let go of security devices and strategies that we have built as crutches for walking in the world, which all prevent us from being open, transparent, and living in trust with self, other, and life itself. In feeling seen, our isolated aloneness can dissipate into forgiveness and closeness.
When you are willing to experience the depths of aloneness, you will discover connection everywhere. Turning to face your fear, you meet the warrior who lives within. Opening to your loss, you gain embrace. Each condition you flee from will pursue you. Each condition you welcome will transform you. Aloneness and true silence is a powerful force that can carve us open. As Mooji has often shared in his satsangs, "Only when you can face and bear your own silence will you be free."
Silence and stillness happen in mind, body, and soul. In the mind, everything ceases. The body finally rests. The soul takes its rightful place as ruler, and you are allowed to be the hero. Silence cannot be forced. From the souls feeling wisdom, silence occurs when your emotions are felt, released, and brought into wholeness. Any emotional disturbance still left in you manifests as the inability to go into silence. As the soul is master of the spirit, and spirit is the vehicle of soul, true silence rests in simply having no emotional healing left to do within you.
Solitude, when you are alone and without any human contact at all for a period of time, can center you in your deeper self. Science has shown that your brainwaves change after seventy-two hours in Nature, without other humans or electrical interference, such as Internet, phones, or electricity. Your mood changes, becomes lighter, more connected, more rounded. Your mind-set relaxes and you feel yourself again, without interference, emotional resonance, or vibrational information from others. You can rest in yourself at last. Your DNA is constantly emitting, emanating, and vibrating information from its spiral helixes into your body, mind, soul, environment, and other people in your immediate surroundings. Going into solitude in Nature, alone, brings forth a wonderful invitation to resonate only with yourself and find out more of who you are and what stuff you are made of."
~ Anaiya Sophia & Padma Parakasha, Sacred Relationships

2 November 2017

Here's to patterns being disrupted

'Confusion is a place between places.
The area where my true sense of direction
is obscured by the mists of varying emotion.
The moment before settling into my body
and allowing the potent feeling to fill me...
Here's to confusion...
here's to patterns being disrupted
by life's unpredictable tempo.
Here's to not knowing,
yet somehow grasping
I can withstand
and bend just like open waters;
being receptive to the teachings
of contrast and change
and to finally seeing.
Here's to lost footing—
to being thrown off balance
and breaking through
my deep-grooved thinking
and out-dated styles of perceiving.
Here's to walking into waves
of fresh ideas and
radical ways of being.
Here's to frustration
and disorientation.
To climbing out of the rut of habit
and swimming in waters of freedom.
Here's to to discomfort
and dissatisfaction;
how they lead me to deeper paths
and redirect my attention to
the light of alternative reason.
And here's to pains of truth
overcoming erroneous roots...
Here's to forming new concepts,
gathering bold insights,
and to gaining with each untried day,
a life of profound meaning.'
(~written by Susan Frybort, author of 'Open Passages' and 'Hope is a Traveler')

4 October 2017

Empathic Attunement

Autumn Skye Art ©

"When you get hooked into emotional reactivity, an opportunity has come to cleanse your perception.
From the perspective of wholeness, triggers are a special form of grace. Not the sort of grace that is sweet, peaceful, and calming, but the kind that is wrathful, fierce, and reorganizing.
When it gets tight, claustrophobic, and you are burning for relief, the invitation is laid before you. To lay down a new pathway. To turn into the disturbing energy and flood it with presence. To infuse the vulnerability underneath the storyline with warm, empathic attunement.
And with the earth as your witness, to commit to the radical path of non-abandonment.
These triggers are not obstacles to your path, but are the very path itself. While they may disturb you, they are eruptions of creativity and aliveness, and guardians at the threshold. In this way, they are worthy of your honour, your care, and your holding.
While it may appear otherwise, they are only love in disguise, appearing in infinite forms to guide you home."

Matt Licata

They caught the wild children and put them in zoos

“They caught the wild children and put them in zoos,
They made them do sums and wear sensible shoes.
They put them to bed at the wrong time of day,
And made them sit still when they wanted to play.
They scrubbed them with soap and they made them eat peas.
They made them behave and say pardon and please.
They took all their wisdom and wildness away.
That’s why there are none in the forests today.”
from a children's book

29 May 2017

Spiritual Bypassing

"When we're immersed in spiritual bypassing, we like the light but not the heat. And when we're caught up in the grosser forms of spiritual bypassing, we'd usually much rather theorize about the frontiers of consciousness than actually go there, suppressing the fire rather than breathing it even more alive, espousing the ideal of unconditional love but not permitting love to show up in its more challenging, personal dimensions. To do so would be too hot, too scary, and too out-of-control, bringing things to the surface that we have long disowned or suppressed.
But if we really want the light, we cannot afford to flee the heat. As Victor Frankl said, "What gives light must endure burning." And being with the fire's heat doesn't just mean sitting with the difficult stuff in meditation, but also going into it, trekking to its core, facing and entering and getting intimate with whatever is there, however scary or traumatic or sad or raw.
Spiritual bypassing is largely occupied, at least in its New Age forms, by the idea of wholeness and the innate unity of Being — "Oneness" being perhaps its favorite bumper sticker — but actually generates and reinforces fragmentation by separating out from and rejecting what is painful, distressed, and unhealed; all the far-from-flattering aspects of being human.
The trappings of spiritual bypassing can look good, particularly when they seem to promise freedom from life's fuss and fury, but this supposed serenity and detachment is often little more than metaphysical valium, especially for those who have made too much of a virtue out of being and looking positive.
A common telltale sign of spiritual bypassing is a lack of grounding and in-the-body experience that tends to keep us either spacily afloat in how we relate to the world or too rigidly tethered to a spiritual system that seemingly provides the solidity we lack. We also may fall into premature forgiveness and emotional dissociation, and confuse anger with aggression and ill will, which leaves us disempowered, riddled with weak boundaries. The overdone niceness that often characterizes spiritual bypassing strands it from emotional depth and authenticity; and its underlying grief — mostly unspoken, untouched, unacknowledged — keeps it marooned from the very caring that would unwrap and undo it, like a baby being readied for a bath by a loving parent.
Spiritual bypassing distances us not only from our pain and difficult personal issues but also from our own authentic spirituality, stranding us in a metaphysical limbo, a zone of exaggerated gentleness, niceness, and superficiality. Its frequently disconnected nature keeps it adrift, clinging to the life jacket of its self-conferred spiritual credentials. As such, it maroons us from embodying our
full humanity.
Cutting through spiritual bypassing means turning towards the painful, unwanted, scary shadow elements of ourselves. To do this we must cut through our numbness and defenses, approaching it with as much care as we can. If doing so seems to heal our heart, we are on the right path. When heart heals, it opens and expands, not shatters. When we denumb and become more comfortable with our own comfort we see what drove us into spiritual bypassing. This is a challenging journey to say the least.
True spirituality is not a high, not a rush, not an altered state. It has been fine to romance it for a while, but our times call for something far more real, grounded, and responsible; something radically alive and naturally integral; something that shakes us to our very core until we stop treating spiritual deepening as something to dabble in here and there. Authentic spirituality is not some little flicker or buzz of knowingness, not a psychedelic blast-through or a mellow hanging-out on some exalted plane of consciousness, not a bubble of immunity, but a vast fire of liberation, an exquisitely fitting crucible and sanctuary, providing both heat and light for the healing and awakening we need."

~ Robert Augustus Masters, Spiritual Bypassing